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Daily Gratitude with Andrea



Morning⏰/Afternoon☕/Evening🍷🛌, its  Wednesday 23rd September 2020.


The very fact that Im doing Gratitudes in a never ending Sunday/Groundhog day, that is 2020, is my first Gratitude for today ✅.


Did you know 🤔(I bet you do, I mean youve been told a lot over the last couple of years, if your along timer or if youre new, youre getting used to the fact that PMH loves ❤  to make you feel better..) that finding things to be grateful for and acknowledging them on a daily basis can improve your mood😃, it makes chemicals🧬 which help your body and brain feel better! Theres definitely a more scientific way of putting that but Ill leave it to the more brainy people to word🧠.

So if you can, let me know your 3 things today, or if youre not feeling it, a simple pleasure or 2  🐶🐱🍎🍰☕🍷🌞🌧🌈.

Or if thats too hard drop a 🌻 and we will do our best to wrap you up with our special PMH love and support…. 


Now, where was I?

Oh yes….


Now last week my 2 gorgeous boys👦🧑 caught germs🤧🤒, which they had very kindly been shared with at school.  They very generously in turn, gave everyone in the house 🧒👦👩‍🦰👫 what appears to be a heavy cold🤧.  Now thats nothing to laugh at, but something did make me cry laughing because of it. Elizabeth needed some painkillers 💊 and asked for some water💧, I grabbed a shot glass out of the cupboard she only needed enough to take some tablets afterall, but for some reason she got the giggles when I handed her the glass 🤣. And everytime she tried to take the tablets she started to laugh😂. Now I have no idea why, but I found it increasingly funny the more she tried and failed to take the tablets the harder I laughed to the point I folded on the floor laughing😅😅🤣🤣. The boys are  looking at the 2 of us wondering what was going on 🤷‍♂️, Marks on a phone call with work and keeps giving us funny looks🙎‍♂️ which made it even harder to pull ourselves together. 10 minutes passed before she took those tablets and we both felt better in mood because of it.


The weekend before I took Oli down to Yorkshire 🚙 to see his Mum 👩👦, for some reason he asked how far we had to go❓, so I turned the Satnav🧭 on so he could see. It came up with a travel warning⚠️ and I diverted us off the motorway🛣.  Now I clearly state here, I HATE city driving❌, I mean I really HATE it🤬. Especially if I dont know the city. I ended up being taken through Leeds city centre, the Sat Nav 😈 had its own agenda Im sure🤪!  The stupid thing wasnt very clear with instructions and would say take the next left ⬅️ NOW, When I was in the right hand lane➡️ after being directed to do that 200 metres previous🤬🤬! On the 2nd missed turn⤴️⤵️ I started answering her back😤! Oli started to laugh 🤣, on the next missed direction 🔃😠 I got the giggles🤣. I have no idea 🥴 how I got out of Leeds City Centre, but I laughed so hard I was crying😂😂 and I had to pull over to calm down so I could drive safely🚙👍.


Now being ill🤧 isnt fun😔, but we laughed🤣, being lost 😳 and stressed 😠 isnt fun but we laughed🤣.

It truly can be the best medicine💊.


I know on our long journey with MH, laughter is something that doesnt happen a lot, but if you can find a chuckle today 😆(even if you giggled at my 2 memories😅) if it means you watch the you tube video Ive attached and even smile then hopefully it will help get those chemicals🧬🧬 buzzing around your body and help🤗.


If not the You tube video, will just annoy you and make you think about what the lyrics actually are and why Teresa and Suzanne let me waffle every now and then!!!


Happy Wednesday Peeps, Ill be back in the comments later for my Grats/Sps..

Video of Peter Kays misheardyrics


Hello from me 🥰 on Wednesday 16th September.   Its Hump day, halfway ⏳ between those precious days when no phone call to school or college are necessary!!! 📱  OR allowing yourself to be a little tipsy without the worry of an alarm! 🥂🍷🍸🍹🍺🥃

This is todays Gratitude post ❤, giving our fabulous Suzanne 🥰, time that she needs for a bit of self care 🤣 (I can hope!) Or dashing around like a mad thing with all her plans💫 (Im assuming this is more likely!!!)…

Its scientifically proven👨🔬👩🔬 that being grateful and finding at least 3 things each day to acknowledge can improve your mindset and your wellbeing. So if you can, pop some gratitudes❤ or Self Pleasures☕ into the comment section or if youre not feeling it today pop a 🌻 and we will surround you in a PMH family hug 💞.

As those who know me on here know, I am a HUGE musical fan 🎵, I have been, all my life. I love singing along to music in the car 🚙 or bopping around my kitchen 🍽! Yes my kids think Im totally mad, but they do sing along with me in the car!

One of my favourites is Mamma Mia 🌅.

I mean who doesnt love ABBA?

Im not sure why, this is one of my favourite songs as it makes me rather sad but it is….

Slipping through my fingers..

Schoolbag in hand, she leaves home in the early morning

Waving goodbye with an absent-minded smile

I watch her go with a surge of that well-known sadness

And I have to sit down for a while

The feeling that I’m losing her forever

And without really entering her world

I’m glad whenever I can share her laughter

That funny little girl

Slipping through my fingers all the time

I try to capture every minute

The feeling in it

Slipping through my fingers all the time

Do I really see what’s in her mind

Each time I think I’m close to knowing

She keeps on growing

Slipping through my fingers all the time

Sleep in our eyes, her and me at the breakfast table

Barely awake, I let precious time go by

Then when she’s gone there’s that odd melancholy feeling

And a sense of guilt I can’t deny

What happened to those wonderful adventures

The places I had planned for us to go

(Slipping through my fingers all the time)

Well, some of that we did but most we didn’t

And why I just don’t know

Slipping through my fingers all the time

I try to capture every minute

The feeling in it

Slipping through my fingers all the time

Do I really see what’s in her mind

Each time I think I’m close to knowing

She keeps on growing

Slipping through my fingers all the time

Sometimes I wish that I could freeze the picture

And save it from the funny tricks of time

Slipping through my fingers…

Schoolbag in hand she leaves home in the early morning

Waving goodbye with an absent-minded smile.


It is literally capturing how I feel about my gorgeous girl. Time goes by so quickly, I wish I could freeze some points in time, one minute your changing a nappy, then your leaving them at the school gate, then your wiping tears and trying to comfort a child who doesnt know themselves anymore..

I am dreading next year when she leaves for University and I hear this song, whenever I think about it!

But the lyrics have me thinking. Our childrens MH have us all wondering what happened to the plans, the adventures? How many of us can  go straight to something we were meant to do but couldnt or didnt even attempt?

Is that us letting them down? Did we fail them by not forcing them to do something? The answer is of course we didnt. We cancelled plans because we love our children and put their needs before something else.

We had so many things planned for this year!  Thanks to this years exceptional circumstances, I dont have to think how many we would have managed, but we did plan them.  And its given us a goal. While I wanted to cram this year with memories (Disneyland Paris, London, Brighton, Museums, art Galleries, maze, Longleat) it would have overwhelmed us both I think and plans would have been cancelled, leading to us both feeling guilty. But now  we have plans for when the world returns to its new order, for when hopefully my gorgeous girl is more confident and she will be happier to do the things she longs to do.

Realising this has given me a different way of thinking. Ive spent a long time feeling I let her down, if Id done something differently, something sooner, but it wouldnt have mattered. MH is something you dont expect. You dont look at the baby in your arms and think that one day, youll be watching for signs of self harm or checking on them in the night to see if they are still with you! My gorgeous, funny, intelligent, unique daughter fills me with love everyday and she knows she is loved. She knows I will fight for her and protect her with my whole being. To the point and it did make me smile, something was on the TV a while ago and something was said about bodyguard and security staff, Elizabeth just said, I dont need anything like that, I have you Mam!😂🤦‍♀️

So when youre feeling like you cant plan, that you have to cancel this weekends dinner plans with x,y or z. Or the movies or the zoo, or even stop people coming over  because your gorgeous child cant take it, think of it differently you can have plans for the future but know right now, you can still change things so they are comfortable just being with you or alone in their room, but youre only a few steps away.  You can capture new minutes. And look to the future and plan for those days, when their world changes, thats what were doing…

Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday and Ill catch you in the comments later..😘😘


Hello and Happy Monday to all my fellow survivors. 🙋‍♀️ Happy Bank Holiday to those in Scotland….

Welcome to todays Gratitudes and Simple Pleasure Post. Im standing in today to give our wonderful Auntie Suz, some much needed time out and hopefully she will be relaxing and eating cake!!! 🥰🍰

Incase you’re new, or you’ve forgotten, finding something in the day to be grateful for, can improve your mindset and help you feel better about yourself😁. Its been scientifically proven 👩🔬👨🔬. So even if you can find a small thing, a smile☺, the sun🌞, the rain🌧, let us know in the comments or anything else that you want to share today feel free and if you need some support or a virtual hug, drop a 🌻 in the comments and Im sure someone can and will help you. 😘

As its Monday, Auntie Suz, likes us to have intentions for the week ahead, so if its surviving it (which is generally mine!!!), planning to have 1/2 an hour out, meeting friends, locking yourself in the bathroom and reading a book, starting a new fitness/healthy eating plan or getting out of your comfort zone in someway, let us know and no doubt Auntie Suz will check how you’re doing later in the week….

I’ve been a member of this group for a fair while now, I orginally joined because my daughter was suffering from MH issues and it was a hellish journey, with virtually no support or noone around me who understood what I was saying until I found this wonderful safe space. Ive gained a lot in this time, friendship, understanding and knowledge. Im not saying its been easy, in noway am I saying that, but support and nurturing is important, for not only our children but for ourselves as well. And thats what Auntie Suz created a safe place for us to vent, share, learn and celebrate with people who understand. PMH is an amazing group and our daily post helps us connect with ourselves and others who “get” our daily life….

And now onto todays ramble from me….🥕🌽🥒🍓
My Dad loved his garden, he took time to nurture and care for his plants, flowers and veg. My grandma and my great grandad were greenfingered too. This year, I decided to try my hand at growing more veg than I ever have and Westlake Farm was created in my back garden! (One of my friends rang me one day and Elizabeth answered saying I was farming. That created the joke and my husband made the sign that is now on the gate to our garden!)
I have a fabulous greenhouse that my husband bought me for our wedding anniversary. It has brought me hours of relaxation and a sense of achievement in what Ive been able to bring out of it and put on our table. Its during this time that Ive realised something, i’ve planted and tended and nurtured these seeds and watched them grow into plants and supported them in various ways, some work some have been disastrous. Its a bit like being a parent, you nurture and care and teach and love. And hope for the best!! Some things work, some things dont. What works for one might not work for another. Asking advice from fellow growers has been a great help, sometimes Ive read and thought thats not for me and other times Ive tried it. And being honest ive read so much this last 6 months on tending my garden and only 20% of that has worked for my garden and me.
I remember when I was pregnant with Elizabeth and at the same time, my sister in law was pregnant with my eldest nephew. She was 3 months behind me and we were out at lunch and she asked what did I think of Miriam Stoppard’s book on babies, Id never heard of the books she told me about and she was outraged when I said I wasn’t reading any. My brother demanded to know why I wasn’t researching baby behaviours and what to do’s. I simply said, my baby can’t read and I doubt they will follow the book anyway. Some will agree with me, some wont.
Some books have good advice some dont. Some people read, some don’t… What works for one, doesn’t work for an other… What I do know, Elizabeth didn’t read the book, neither did my nephew!!!! All that reading did nothing for them, babies can’t read books, especially when they are in the womb!!😂😂
Gardening and parenting are pretty similar except you dont eat your children when they are grown!!!!
You watch them grow and do your best, some things work, others don’t, but you don’t give up you keep going and you figure out what to do, what works best for you and your family or fruit/vegetables….
At the end of the day, if you love and nurture, not only your child, but your relationships and more importantly yourself, you will always see results… Even small ones.. And those small achievements are just as important as the big ones if not more so….

Along with intentions, do you want to achieve something today, this week or this month.
Personally Id like to achieve a day of not having to raise my voice or get upset with a 13 yr old who is pushing boundaries and my patience!!!… Ill let you know how I get on later…..
Happy Monday Peeps, catch you later in the comments…. 😘😘😘

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